I was told my profile was out of date, so here's an attempt to update it a bit.

I can no longer say I'm in my late-forties, sadly (or even my 40's, even more sadly). I was born in latter months of '69, as such I prefer to call myself vintage. I guess my status on here has been predetermined as "chubby" and I suppose that is true however "fat" is more apt. Look at the pics if you don't believe me.

Of my friend and fan base, Grandpa Joe would say, “Our little group is getting smaller by the minute!” I'd like to expand them both, but like the meme says, it’s so hard to make friends after 40 because by then you realize you hate everybody. My bestie moved to Seattle (for the worst reasons of all -- love and marriage) so I'm starting that whole "finding a person who can stand to be around me" thing again. One besides my partner, I mean. I travel infrequently but Chicago and Provincetown are favorite destinations. At some point, I want to make it to the West Coast or Europe but not too soon. I don't do a lot of bear runs, there is a lot about them that isn't my scene, but I can be found at Bear Pride (should it ever take place again) and will be in P-town for Bear Week but am not sure if I'll be at the Crown (times change, so do hoteliers). I think this will be my twenty-fourth trip. Looking forward to seeing some familiar faces there again. Maybe we can hang out more this time around. If you're going, drop me a line and say hello; for a nominal fee, I'll save you a lounge chair in the shade by the pool.

As for me, I work in IT management and my job takes up a lot of my time. A lot. I don't like to talk about where I work, either. Nothing good ever comes from that, in my opinion. I have had a computer of one type or another for more than 30 years, which means I am oh-so-very old. I especially enjoy chatting online and have ever since I got my very first 300 baud modem (and a big shout out to anyone who remembers AtomicRomeo from Entertainment Columbus or CompuServe CB!) I have a degree in music and enjoy all kinds; I love sci-fi (ST: Voyager, Stranger Things, Fringe and Doctor Who - current and classic), Britcoms, movies, cooking, 70's and 80's nostalgia, and reading (Sedaris, Martin, Watt-Evans, Resnick, Gibson). I am one of those middle-aged guys who still goes to see Rocky Horror at midnight and throws toast.

As a foodie or a fatty, depending on your tastes in BMI, I tend dine out frequently. Bad for the waistline and wallet, I know, but I like a lot of ethnic cuisines (Indian, Greek, Turkish, Vietnamese, Chinese) that are hard to make authentically at home. That said, I am no slouch in the kitchen. Traveling to cities with a Chinatown is always a bonus as I love dim sum and am always looking for a new restaurant to try.

I have a partner, so I'm not looking for love and I'm not looking for sex, but people always want to know what you're "in to" so bears are hot as are some cubs and otters. Much younger than 30 is probably too young, much older than 60 is probably too old; both of those relate largely to a lack of cultural reference points between us as opposed to an individual's attractiveness. Regardless, if you're a twenty-something chaser looking for a daddy or a sixty-something daddy looking for a boy, I am probably not your man. Hairy is definitely a major plus verging on a requirement. I like thinner guys who have more muscles and fur; I like hairy, bearish guys who are thinner than me (mainly for the the logistics but I tend to like what I don't have myself). Hairy muscle bears are nice and add some ginger to that and it's a definite turn-on. Serial monogamy is one of my things, so an appreciation of what that means is important. Also, a gentleman needs to have a life or at least a plan for his life. Guys who are drifting through looking to latch on to someone to give them stability or purpose (or a home, an income or a reason to be sober/straight) lack a certain quality I find desirable. For me, long-term relationships require both parties to have intelligence; ambition; a spirit of cooperation; senses of humor, respect, honor, integrity and truthfulness; and a willingness to love someone unconditionally. Anyone lacking more than two of these last few characteristics would not only be unattractive, but someone I'd probably prefer not to have as a friend. Oh, and I am told I'm really good at making out. And again, I have a partner, so why do you care about all this anyway?

I'm not going to insult anyone and say something about being disease-free. I know my status, as should everyone, and I get tested. Be safe! There's only one of each of us, so we're all a precious commodity!